My Son would Never Rape a Woman

sad-alone-cute-girl-waiting-someone-window My son would never rape a woman. It is brutal, disgusting and immoral. He simply isn’t capable of such a thing. She has obviously enticed him. __________________________________________________________

She was at the club when it happened. Short black dress, tall black drink. She stood in the middle of the dance floor, moved her hips slowly. She made eye contact with him. She even smiled. He walked up to her and asked her to meet him at his car. When she declined, he grabbed her arm.
And what a scene she created! She fought, screamed and kicked. You want this, he told her as he pulled her out of the club. NO, she screamed, yelling as he dragged her to his car. You don’t know what you want, you’re drunk.

She sat alone in the parking lot a few hours later. Disgusting girl, she reeked of smoke and alcohol. What a drama queen. That girl, no morals, no values, has the audacity to say she was raped. Should’ve thought twice before getting that third drink.

My son would never rape a sober girl. ___________________________________________________________

She boarded the bus after school. The school bag on her shoulders, accentuating her breasts. It was raining and she didn’t have an umbrella. Her kurti clinging to her body in the most indecent way. You could practically see it. The shape of her breasts, her hips, her thighs. She stood there, absentmindedly adjusting the straps of her bag. The bus moved jerkily down the narrow road. Her chest heaving, up and down, up and down.

Of course she was going to be touched. This girl has no sense of modesty. He went up behind her and grabbed her chest as she got off the bus. Chutiya, she yelled, looking around for help. No one cared. What did she expect. An army to come to her rescue?

My son would never rape a girl who was wearing a dupatta.   ___________________________________________________________

They would whistle as she walked past them. She’d ignore it, walking fast until she made her way down the street. How could you blame them! She was beautiful. Such girls especially should learn to dress modestly.
But she. She’d wear jeans, bright red lipstick, draw her eyes and wear high heels. She thinks she’s Rakhi Sawant. She is doing it for attention, and then she complains when she gets it. She wanted them to look at her. She probably enjoyed it.

She had it coming. One day, they followed her. They cornered her and tore her clothes off in broad daylight. She screamed and cried. They didn’t care. They broke her heels, smudged her kajal, smeared her lipstick. They dragged her unconscious body down the dark street and slashed her face. They laughed. No one would whistle at her again.

My son would never rape a girl who dressed appropriately. ___________________________________________________________

She went for a movie with a boy at 10pm. She probably comes from one of those modern families. Going out alone with that boy like a common whore. She must have had sex with him also. These girl are like that. So loose. They don’t care about virtues, values and tradition.

They stopped them outside the theatre and beat the boy up. They pushed the girl to the ground and held her there as each took his turn with her. Some of them, twice. They walked away when they were done, leaving her out on the street for hours until she found the strength to go home.
What difference does it make. God knows how many men she has slept with anyway.

My son would never rape a homely girl. ______________________________________________________________________

He wobbled in at 11pm. She did the dishes quietly, her heart racing as she heard his footsteps get closer. Tears stung her eyes as he put his hands on her waist. She could smell the whiskey on his breath. He tugged at her pallu, letting it fall to the ground. Not today, she begged. Her back ached and her head felt like it was going to explode.

He grabbed her hair and pulled her to their bedroom. She scrambled to find her pallu as they walked past the hall. Their son stared in horror. He shut the door behind him and slapped her. He told her to stay quiet and take her clothes off. She did as she was told.

What do you mean my son raped his wife. There is no such thing. ______________________________________________________________________

My son would never rape a woman. We’re simply confusing rape with consensual sex. If you look close enough, consent is just around the corner. You just need to try hard enough to find it. Consent is everywhere, disguised in short dresses, drinks, make up, high heels, late nights, marriage certificates and even screams and tears. In fact, there’s a little consent in all of us. So, trust your gut. Consent might just be closer than you think.

283 thoughts on “My Son would Never Rape a Woman

  1. This is very well written.. although some of us don’t belive in such atrocities, the standard Indian mentality still does.. about their stupid mentality as if their sons are gods directly gifted by angels.

  2. I’m sorry, but are you actually agreeing to this shit ? ( I wouldn’t think so ) …but people with less than half a brain would mistake this ‘sarcastic’ article for real. As in, this article is being read by SANE people, who already understand the depth of what your saying and also agree with you. BUT at the same time there might be a few, who would take this seriously and hold your article liable for their future ‘sins’. You know…like morally illiterate shits , who have a really disgusting twisted brain?
    (Anyway, I’m sorry for being so rash , but this little piece of article got me worked up. Yes it was THAT good . It made perfect sense and got it’s point across really well. Thanks for keeping my faith in humanity strong.)

  3. Two bits that were missed according to me are when a man gets raped & everyone is like, how’s that possible??? He is a guy, obviously he wanted to have sex. Just because a man likes sex, doesn’t mean that he is willing to have it with anyone & everyone.
    Secondly, even if during consensual intercourse at a certain point of time one person says no or stop & the other doesn’t stop. It’s still rape.
    I’m sure most of us know this, but just wanted to bring it to the open.
    Great article none the less, a well written article on victim blaming & rape.

  4. Consent might be closer than you think – My son would never rape a woman who didnt have a vagina !

  5. Hi Well articulated and yes this is how the moms of rapists react when they are told that their son has committed a heinous crime! Well victim blaming is how our patriarchal society works. I couldn’t control myself because the girl was not wearing a duppatta, or was wearing a short dress or was drunk or whatever stupid reason they can come up with. I just want to ask those mothers if they know that their sons will not commit crimes with a homely girl — what would she call a heavily pregnant woman in her early thirties going for her routine walk — a whore, she is definitely not wearing tight fit short dress? Why did her son raped her? dragged her into the moving car and gang-raped her and then left her and her unborn child in danger?

  6. Reblogged this on Swati Nitin Gupta and commented:
    Since this is what I am trying to do on my blog! Here it has been done in a simple language. A humble request to you all the mothers — don’t be blind to your child’s faults. I am a mother of a son and all my effort is on bringing up a gender-sensitive child.

  7. An extremely well-written article. Shared this on facebook! Kudos for bringing tacitly ignored facts out in the open!

  8. Captivating enough and might be the truth people aren’t willing to accept but what’s also true is, like some body said – “All generalizations are dangerous, even this one.”

  9. Really well articulated the reality of our society and for those who say it i would only say that what if anyone get enticed by your beauty or your own daughter`s beauty what would you say then,how would you react on it,what trauma would you be in, at least i can`t imagine it so better cultivate your son despite of patting and backing him up by saying futile things.

  10. Reblogged this on Panda XPress and commented:
    The fact that one will cringe while reading it, shows how well it is written.

    Every man believing any of these theories should have one daughter going through one of these problems once in her life. Enough to wake up a society.

  11. how did she entice him? its her body. she can do what she wants with it. wearing a short dress and getting drunk does not mean it is ok for someone to rape a person. CONSENT is something you need to teach your son. “he would never rape a sober girl”. oh so all drunk girls are asking for it? GETTING DRUNK AND HAVING A GOOD TIME IS NOT AN INVITATION FOR NON-CONSENTUAL SEX. what she was wearing, what she was doing does not matter because it is her life. SHE CAN DO WHAT SHE WANTS. she should be able to do what she wants without having someone think its ok to rape her because of her actions. RAPE IS NEVER OK. defending your son by blaming the victim based on what she was wearing is so, so closed-minded. who asked your son to look at her, anyway?

    • Uhm. This is satire. It has a sarcastic undertone to it. My views are the same as yours. Read it again with that frame of mind and the article will seem very different 🙂

      • Krshna…….what about all the men who are doing child abuse? even small 1.5 year to 6, 7 yar old girls are being raped….its really disgusting that only Indian mentalities think that girls should be well dressed and covered properly and if we are not dressed properly we won’t be looking vulgar…which I totally disagree…even traditional women in bus stops are being stared vulgarly/ commented by the in-descent men…..

        I see you were saying to many who disagree to your article that this is a Satire and read it again with that frame….frankly speaking this doesn’t look like a Satire at all….if its a Satire…..all those people who like your article are shud also know what u mean….but FYI…all those who liked your article are agaisnt women being modern……..

        Bottom line….not happy with the way you presented your thoughts… the end…if you mentioned a strong sentence showing you meant this in a sarcastic way…then it would be a better article….

        BTW…….Hope you got the gist of what I am saying.

      • Hi Leela, thank you for your opinion.
        I have to say I disagree with you. It is actually quite sad that people dont get that its satire because it implies that thoughts like these are not completely outrageous to them. For those who understood the satire, it is because they understand that any justification for rape is completely unthinkable. This is what makes it satire. It is the satire that essentially makes the piece what it is, rather than presenting it the obvious way.

        I understand that many dont get the real point of the article, and I get the gist of what you are saying. However, to me, it is pretty obvious that it is sarcastic because if nothing else, no one would publicly justify rape.

        Also those who liked the article, it is not because they do not support modern women, it is because they understand that it is satire as indicated in their comments above and below. Thank you for your opinion, though. I will try to make things more clear in my next piece 🙂

  12. “Sarcasm, because killing is illegal”. Great post. I hope this message reaches to every one out there, except for people like Mulayam Singh Yadav, etc. As much as the nation is taking a bold step forward in every aspect, sinful souls like these are determined to pull it back into the dark ages. And I’m sure that such people will interpret this in a literal sense and start using it their poll campaigns! Once again- Fantastic post!

  13. There isn’t a word as Rape. It’s an invite and always synonymous to being consensual… It’s only a past perfect of consensual sex. Period.

  14. Also write an article “My daughter will not be a whore”. Why blame men all the fucking time?

    • What. Huge overreaction here. Please read the article again and notice that the point of the article is to mock society’s tendency to blame the victim and does not at all imply that men do not get framed.
      If you still do not understand, read some of the comments above which have explained it perfectly.

      Besides, whether or not my daughter is a whore is still not a reason to rape her. Jus sayin’

  15. Reblogged this on A Pensive Soul and commented:
    I have hardly seen such powerful use of sarcasm before. This satirical article puts the point across so effectively.

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  17. Reblogged this on WEI JINGGG and commented:
    This article really reflects the gender situation in India. Really meaningful especially after the lesson my teacher went through on such issues in India.

  18. Hi, was just wondering on ur conclusion which is a little disturbing. Is dis wat people think dat woman hv always gvn der consent to men (who just needs to persuade a woman harder) for raping them???

  19. i should praise your writing skills ,,,,,,,,,, but a lot of girls may not be able to write it but they feel it ,,,,,,, filled with disgust ,,,,,,,,,,,, my son would end up dead if he, sex and no are involved together ,,,,,,,,,,,,, he will grow up learning that a girl always have a right to say no and he has to obey

  20. As a mother to two boys , I will say this with absolute sincerity that nothing .. No amount of flaw in a girls character, dressing, body language .. Anything gives them or any man a right to use her body against her will. The one thing that is not understood is that rape is not judicial scars that get healed, it’s spiritual and emotional damage that never heals. If a woman allows, the man also has the same independence and decision and personal choice to reciprocate or not to .. Either way .. Unless BOTH PEOPLE Unserstand and AGREE should it be called sex.. Anything else IS rape.. No matter what word/relationship defines the acquaintance ..

  21. Nooo they can Never Do anything wrong. And they also didn’t rape a modest girl. Only girls r at fault here Ain’t it *Crap*. It doesn’t matter what a girl wear and do its their r8 to do whatever they want that doesn’t mean those morons have the r8 to rape them. Shame on this type of low life losers. And what abt those girl who never partied Never drink Never wear Exposed clothes then still why this stupid Boys/Mans rape/harass them Now also its their fault >:o

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