My Son would Never Rape a Woman

sad-alone-cute-girl-waiting-someone-window My son would never rape a woman. It is brutal, disgusting and immoral. He simply isn’t capable of such a thing. She has obviously enticed him. __________________________________________________________

She was at the club when it happened. Short black dress, tall black drink. She stood in the middle of the dance floor, moved her hips slowly. She made eye contact with him. She even smiled. He walked up to her and asked her to meet him at his car. When she declined, he grabbed her arm.
And what a scene she created! She fought, screamed and kicked. You want this, he told her as he pulled her out of the club. NO, she screamed, yelling as he dragged her to his car. You don’t know what you want, you’re drunk.

She sat alone in the parking lot a few hours later. Disgusting girl, she reeked of smoke and alcohol. What a drama queen. That girl, no morals, no values, has the audacity to say she was raped. Should’ve thought twice before getting that third drink.

My son would never rape a sober girl. ___________________________________________________________

She boarded the bus after school. The school bag on her shoulders, accentuating her breasts. It was raining and she didn’t have an umbrella. Her kurti clinging to her body in the most indecent way. You could practically see it. The shape of her breasts, her hips, her thighs. She stood there, absentmindedly adjusting the straps of her bag. The bus moved jerkily down the narrow road. Her chest heaving, up and down, up and down.

Of course she was going to be touched. This girl has no sense of modesty. He went up behind her and grabbed her chest as she got off the bus. Chutiya, she yelled, looking around for help. No one cared. What did she expect. An army to come to her rescue?

My son would never rape a girl who was wearing a dupatta.   ___________________________________________________________

They would whistle as she walked past them. She’d ignore it, walking fast until she made her way down the street. How could you blame them! She was beautiful. Such girls especially should learn to dress modestly.
But she. She’d wear jeans, bright red lipstick, draw her eyes and wear high heels. She thinks she’s Rakhi Sawant. She is doing it for attention, and then she complains when she gets it. She wanted them to look at her. She probably enjoyed it.

She had it coming. One day, they followed her. They cornered her and tore her clothes off in broad daylight. She screamed and cried. They didn’t care. They broke her heels, smudged her kajal, smeared her lipstick. They dragged her unconscious body down the dark street and slashed her face. They laughed. No one would whistle at her again.

My son would never rape a girl who dressed appropriately. ___________________________________________________________

She went for a movie with a boy at 10pm. She probably comes from one of those modern families. Going out alone with that boy like a common whore. She must have had sex with him also. These girl are like that. So loose. They don’t care about virtues, values and tradition.

They stopped them outside the theatre and beat the boy up. They pushed the girl to the ground and held her there as each took his turn with her. Some of them, twice. They walked away when they were done, leaving her out on the street for hours until she found the strength to go home.
What difference does it make. God knows how many men she has slept with anyway.

My son would never rape a homely girl. ______________________________________________________________________

He wobbled in at 11pm. She did the dishes quietly, her heart racing as she heard his footsteps get closer. Tears stung her eyes as he put his hands on her waist. She could smell the whiskey on his breath. He tugged at her pallu, letting it fall to the ground. Not today, she begged. Her back ached and her head felt like it was going to explode.

He grabbed her hair and pulled her to their bedroom. She scrambled to find her pallu as they walked past the hall. Their son stared in horror. He shut the door behind him and slapped her. He told her to stay quiet and take her clothes off. She did as she was told.

What do you mean my son raped his wife. There is no such thing. ______________________________________________________________________

My son would never rape a woman. We’re simply confusing rape with consensual sex. If you look close enough, consent is just around the corner. You just need to try hard enough to find it. Consent is everywhere, disguised in short dresses, drinks, make up, high heels, late nights, marriage certificates and even screams and tears. In fact, there’s a little consent in all of us. So, trust your gut. Consent might just be closer than you think.

283 thoughts on “My Son would Never Rape a Woman

  1. “My son would never rape a homely girl”
    “My son would never rape someone’s wife”
    “My son would never rape a sober girl”
    “My son would never rape a girl wearing dupatta”

    As if these were prerequisites for not getting raped. Also, part of the problem lies in our culture looking at women as goddesses rather than normal human beings. We have certain expectations of the divine and we assign the same parameters to women. If one of these parameters don’t match, all of that respect comes crashing down. The woman is now no more than meat that deserves to be devoured.

    This is such a wonderful article, presenting complex thought in a way aam-aadmi would understand.

  2. Wow. This is an excellent amalgamation of sheer writing ability, sensitivity, and sensibility. However, it may cater mainly to a niche audience which can comprehend unabashed satire, one that is already in vehement opposition of victim-blaming. Nevertheless, it is absolutely stunning as a piece! Glad to see it going viral. Power to you, Krshna. 🙂

  3. Which part of her body was a 5 year old revealing when she got raped. Yes everybody is entitled to their own opinion but I think it’s time that we Indians change the way we think. We can for once stop blaming the victim. If a girl wants to have sex she can find a 100 guys to sleep with, she need not humiliate herself in front of the world. According to your article all the girls should stay in burka because apparently a guy might have a weakness for a girls arm and he might get turned on. Wearing short dresses is not an invitation. If she wants it she will say a yes. No one and I mean no one has the right to decide what she can wear or not wear. She can be at any place she wants to be at any point of time. There is no excuse to rape.

    • Your post presents an excellent example that mere knowledge of English doesn’t automatically imply a high level of (as people in our country readily assume) intelligence or even a bare minimum IQ for that matter. Seriously, do you not GET satire? Now I feel dumb for asking that question.

      • satire
        ˈsatʌɪə/
        noun
        1.
        the use of humour, irony, exaggeration, or ridicule to expose and criticize people’s stupidity or vices, particularly in the context of contemporary politics and other topical issues.

        Be quiet if you have nothing sensible to say. This was an excellent piece highliching a pressing issue which needed to be highlighted.

      • You’d be surprised at how many people actually don’t get satire and/or sarcasm. It might seem obvious to you or me. But these people simply read the words. They don’t look at the context or think about how/why those words were written. And honestly, it’s scary, the number of people who have such dangerously low IQs clubbed with a complete lack of logic and common sense.

    • well said.This article is kinda stupid. Its okay for guys to drink,but if girls drink they suddenly become sluts? If i girl wants to wear revealing clothes,or go to movies at odd times,it’s her choice. When guys can do it why cant girls?

  4. This is complete sarcasm!!!!
    What the hell is author is trying to say in these sentences?

    A girl should behave in every possible way she can, she should wear proper clothes, she should not go out late etc etc. Every girl has a right to wear exactly what she wants, she has the right to do whatever she wants to do. It is the people who are bloody loosers, who go in for crimes like RAPES and all. I mean come on yaar….
    What the hell is wrong with all these people. If you say that short skirts or drinking too much are the things which attract rapes, then please tell me why women in suits/sarees are raped? Why were there cases where a one year old girl (who does not even know anything) is raped?

    This is a big question to all of us. Are we living in a society of humans or animals?????

    • It’s comments like yours that renders the entire point of the piece completely and utterly useless. It’s sarcasm and satire.

      The hell the author’s trying to say is all them pointless excuses people have used to deviate and evade the subject of whether someone actually raped another person or not, they’re just another way to veer off topic.

      Points such as what she was wearing, whether she had a drink or not, whether she’s sexually active anyway (which any sane adult in the 21st century will be) and a barrage of other points which do not make the slightest difference to a situation where someone wanted to engage sexually, got a refusal, yet went ahead with it anyway, against the other person’s will.

      Much like many other fronts where women have been held back from centuries, any form of sexual freedom and the subsequent protection against sexual violence which is everyone’s right, has often been denied and supported by women and men alike, as long as it didn’t happen to them.

      Especially those women whose sons or husbands or brothers were the one accused of the rape in the first place. There’s been a clanish and self righteous mentality for centuries now where someone you know couldn’t possibly do anything wrong. Especially if they did something nice at another point in time, like buy you a cup of tea or summit.

      The piece here is sarcastically mocking those prejudices.

      I don’t know why i bothered explaining the bleeding the obvious here. Only got directed here because someone my dad knows shared it on Facebook.

      Still, hope this has been of some benefit to you and helps clear up your misunderstanding.

  5. I don’t mean to sound stupid.. But you meant for this to be sarcastic, right?
    I mean…The article is GREAT if it is satirical…But the last paragraph kind of threw me off… Undid all the anger that the rest of the article built up!

  6. So u mean to say, girls wearing modern outfits r inviting these fucking bastards to rape them ?? Please change your way of thinking.. This is total sarcastic..!
    If you think your son doesn’t rape a girl who would be very decent and traditional, then why he rape a 3 or 5 or 10 year old girl ?
    Every mother should teach her son how to respect women. We are humans not animals to behave so cruel 😦

  7. Highlights utterly disgusting patriarchal attitude at the root of Indian society hiding below hollow tradition and culture bullshit. A woman can do whatever she wants, drink, dance, party till 3 am, wear anything, sleep with as many guys, doesn’t mean she deserved to be raped, it is never ever her fault. Men rape and they are only ones absolutely responsible for that crime. Until and unless this fact is imbibed in Indian society, as an Indian woman I have zero respect towards Indian society, culture and morals, it is despicable. I am not going to hide behind political correctness, will say it the way I see it.

  8. This is utter bull crap!!..what the hell is wrong with the society..rape is rape; doesn’t matter what ur reasons are. It’s immoral..and the only punishment for it is the death penalty.

  9. first i was shocked how could any one write this about rape…………… but awesomely written and explained the mentality …………… u rocked 🙂

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  11. To Divyanth Jayaraj – U said quite right..But the problem is not in culture symbolizing Women with Goddesses..but in flawed parameters which people assign to that “Scope of Divinity”….

    • It’s ’cause of people who “refuse” , stressing on the refuse word; to understand something that has been said in a language which isn’t their mother tongue. I feel ridiculous to call myself an Indian now. -_-

      • I’d say the real reason is utter self righteousness, where you rush to add a comment before the article has even percolated into your mind properly.

  12. Job well done! The sarcasm dripping off it makes it absolutely delicious!
    (if i hadn’t read the comments, i couldnt have believed that ANYONE could have missed it…. but, oh well! )

    This piece needs to be read out in public venues, you know!
    The sad thing is, after ALL of this… after all the effort you’ve put in it, we’d hear those lines spoken in a snooty voice!
    “My son would never rape a homely girl”
    “My son would never rape someone’s wife”
    “My son would never rape a sober girl”
    “My son would never rape a girl wearing dupatta”

    People in our country have seriously been warped to declare stuff like ‘Boys will make mistakes’ and ‘If a boy is to be punished for rape, a girl should also be punished for having consensual sex before marriage’. i mean… Isn’t there ALSO a boy with ther in that ‘consensual’ act of hers?

    *sigh*

    I wish people learnt responsibility!

  13. Nicely written article and all that. I have read a million articles like this now, I don’t know clearly know what your article aims to change. The target audience of your article is a society which is reasonably sophisticated and is averse to rape anyway, time we start reaching out to the society where rapes are viewed as a girl’s mistake. Don’t misunderstand me, I don’t intend to belittle your views.

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  15. Reblogged this on Being Indian and commented:
    With all the rape cases that come to light nowadays, this is what the politicians claim! And this is what resides somewhere in the heart of every Indian out there who tries to find a reason to blame the victim instead of the molester.

    Would it make as much sense to blame a person who house has just been robbed?! “It’s your own fault you were robbed! You did not bother to set up those expensive alarm systems.
    You chose to stay in this neighbourhood! Of course you were robbed!
    Why do you need so many possessions?! Maybe if you had been more careful with them you would’nt be robbed!”

  16. Good article !!! I hope the men reading the article are not taking it in the literal sense esp the last part.I live in middle east here Indian men know how to behave well .Majority of the men are pussies who need public support and applaud from friends.You need guts to rise against the tide and fight it. But heere they are famous for staring esp at pre teen arab girls.They cant accept the fact that they cant be with certain kin dof women no matter what happens, they need to shed thier ego first. Women are no gauge to you pride or self respect.You have to have it within yourself

  17. it was a waste of time… its not us girls who need to change our way of living cuz of d cheap mentality of indian men… we are not concenting when we wear high heels or short dresses or do make up… its d men who have to change their mentality dat a girl is concenting in dis way… everybody has a right to live dere life as dey want… its really sad dat in d same india where once ppl thought 1000 times before disrespecting a girl however c may dress but now a days dnt even think once before raping her… n d blame is on d girl…wow… great… is a girl not allowed to live a life c wants????

      • ya… i get its meaning now… sorry for what i said… in scarsam it is a awesm article… just love it… n really it is true

  18. By the way, let me comment once more with some love… The second time love is to try and make up for any possible mood-offs on account of the commentators above who did not get that this was satire (I know I would have been put off).. So once more, you did a GREAT job with this article… 🙂

  19. Couldn’t help being a bit amused at the reactions. Unfortunately, not many got the satirical tone of the post – not to worry, I did, and really appreciate the way you’ve penned your views about this topic. It’s so easy to point the finger at women, men have to learn to respect women as humans. P.S: A disclaimer saying that this is a satirical post would help save you from explaining to those who didn’t get it. Cheers! 🙂

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    • Yeah I agree with Krishna there. It’s not that the article points at all men, rather at the mindset of most parents about their sons’ being right on whatever they do. Granted that not all the men are rapists out there. Peace man. 🙂

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  22. This is the most moving piece on rape that I have read in recent times. It really moved me. The use of sarcasm at its best!
    Really sad for those who couldnt understand it. Its ironical that where phones have got smarter, people r getting dumber!
    More power to u! 🙂

  23. Loved your write-up..I have always wondered why people rape?..Will all men given a chance and are assured of anonymity and immunity,rape?…NO!!…So what is that factor,that pushes certain men to rape?…Childhood spent in abusive surroundings?…..Seeing one’s father or elders treating women like shit and women meekly accepting it?…Perverts getting their fix?….alcohol/drugs bringing down one’s inhibitions?…..I am still searching for answers…My 10 year old girl asked me,This question last week-‘Amma,why do men rape?’…I tried to explain to her as best as I could…She does not understand completely yet, what Rape involves…As my dear mother-in-law says ‘In the age of Kali(Kaliyug),kali will increase in people and they will become beasts’. 😦

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